I'm trying a new thing today that, for lack of a better term, I'll call "Toy Time-Out."
I suppose if you want to get really picky about putting blame on an object rather than the person, then you'd be the same person who thinks "SUV hits pedestrian...news at 7" is acceptable.
But kids don't come with instruction manuals, we know this. What worked for the 1st child doesn't necessarily work for number 2 or three. What works for your best friends kids might not work for you, and the woman who has "angels" for children and tries to give you advice on your children can suck an egg. You know your kids better than anyone. You'd think I know my kids as well, too.
My son is almost 2 1/2. He's not terrible. He's not an angel either for that matter.
We are having disciplining disagreements. When to scold, when to discuss, when to redirect, and when to remove to time-out. Then, once a time-out is enacted, what and where will this take place? Their room? A specific chair? A specific place? How long?
You have answers to these questions, I know you do.
This week we moved the fish tank from his room to the living room so he can look at them better. I thought this was a great idea.
Daniel will pull chairs to the fish tank to look, tap, then toss anything he has into the opening at the very top of the tank. There used to be a flap there, but since it was healthier for the fish to remove it, I can't seem to find it - yay.
I've fished out trucks, cars, drum sticks, and a teething toy. Each time we tell him that he is hurting the fish, the fish are getting boo-boos.
Does this deter him? No.
This afternoon it was an airplane.
He loves airplanes.
He took one of his airplanes, and "crashed it" into the tank.
If time-out wasn't deterring this kid, other measures would have to be taken. I just could not remove the fish tank. And it was becoming a game for him. What articles, boxes, books, chairs, buckets etc. could he use as a stool to get up to the tank?
Anything he could find.
It had to end.
And so, I did what every mom in my position would do, I put that airplane in time out.
For the next 2 minutes he was not allowed to play with that airplane. That yellow airplane made bad choices crashing into the fish tank and giving boo-boos to the poor fishies.
Take that airplane!
I'll tell you what, though, after a few additional cars went into time out he finally got the picture. It's only been a few hours, but the fish tank remains as it is; 2 fish, a castle and a climbing rock.
Everyday brings us closer, one way or another. We have good days, we have bad days, and we never know how many more days we'll have. Treasure each one, and, in this case, document the especially special ones.
Showing posts with label Choices. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Choices. Show all posts
Tuesday, May 8, 2012
Thursday, March 1, 2012
2Y93D: To Pierce or Not to Pierce
My Daughter is 7 months old now.
When I was her age my parents had already taken me to get my ears pierced. I don't remember it.
Now here's the question. Do you have a little girl? Have you, or are you planning on getting her ears pierced?
Don't get me wrong, if you have a son and want to do the same, that is certainly up to you. This is not supposed to be a sexist thing, though I can't say I recommend it.
My opinion on the matter is, No. Until she asks me, or expresses interest in getting her ears pierced, she will remain without holes in her ears (not including the holes she already has...I figure she's more apt to put something in those holes before I put holes in her lobes.)
Also, if she then asks for a second hole, she can have an additional one at 14...more at 16.
I have many friends who have gone ahead and pierced their girls' ears. That's fine, it's cute, it's just not for me.
Why? You ask. Good question.
I'm not exactly sure why, but I think it has something to do with the choice I make for her. Perhaps it is a decision that I want her to think about, weigh the options, and make on her own.
It certainly isn't because I don't believe ears should be pierced, I have...more than 2 in each ear. It isn't because I worry about her looking like a boy. It isn't because I don't want the hassle or having to clean them multiple times a day.
I want her to be self confident. I want her to think for herself.
Should she want this, we'll do it properly. Professionally. Not at a kiosk in the mall.
And so, at 7 months old, it's one less thing I have to worry about for a few years.
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When I was her age my parents had already taken me to get my ears pierced. I don't remember it.
Now here's the question. Do you have a little girl? Have you, or are you planning on getting her ears pierced?
Don't get me wrong, if you have a son and want to do the same, that is certainly up to you. This is not supposed to be a sexist thing, though I can't say I recommend it.
My opinion on the matter is, No. Until she asks me, or expresses interest in getting her ears pierced, she will remain without holes in her ears (not including the holes she already has...I figure she's more apt to put something in those holes before I put holes in her lobes.)
Also, if she then asks for a second hole, she can have an additional one at 14...more at 16.
I have many friends who have gone ahead and pierced their girls' ears. That's fine, it's cute, it's just not for me.
Why? You ask. Good question.
I'm not exactly sure why, but I think it has something to do with the choice I make for her. Perhaps it is a decision that I want her to think about, weigh the options, and make on her own.
It certainly isn't because I don't believe ears should be pierced, I have...more than 2 in each ear. It isn't because I worry about her looking like a boy. It isn't because I don't want the hassle or having to clean them multiple times a day.
I want her to be self confident. I want her to think for herself.
Should she want this, we'll do it properly. Professionally. Not at a kiosk in the mall.
And so, at 7 months old, it's one less thing I have to worry about for a few years.
>>>>---INTRODUCING..... A New Section...
Today's Mess of the Day
Today's "Mess of the Day" is brought to you by Streit's Matzo.
I think from here on out I'll use this format - a post, then, a Mess of the Day. What do you think?
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