You've read the articles and the books, heard the hype, asked your friends, and consulted with parents...about how to be the best parent you can be.
"Are you Mom enough?"
Do you know "What to expect when you're Expecting?"
Do you have "belly Laughs?"
or do you have "The happiest Baby on the Block?"
Odds are, you are, you do, you may, and you might.
But do you feel like you are?
Is it my fault that I have what others have stated "A wild child", "A terrible Child", "A lot of kid", and "a very energetic little one?"
He doesn't sit still. He can't be left alone with strangers ( new babysitters etc.) He stops when I say "red light" then says "green light means Go Go Go!" and continues to run. His energy is boundless...endless...like he has a little tesseract cube inside him.
What two year old refuses to nap, then finds himself not being able to sleep until anywhere between 9:30 and 11:00pm?
OK, here's the most recent example: This weekend was a very important graduation for a very favorite friend of ours. We were prepared, we had everything we could possible need; food, diapers, change of clothes, new toys, camera, distractions, etc. Really, we had it all. We got perfect seats, had a perfect view, and arrived in time to relax before the place filled up...
... Graduation had not even begun before Daniel needed to get up and run around the theatre... down the rows, up the stairs, down the stairs, across the mezzanine, along the marble landing, in and out of bathrooms and over and over again. We pick him up, bring him back to our seat and firmly tell him we need to whisper, sit and look for "AJ." It works for a minutes before he is back up again. Once the benediction began he was running...we decided to let him play with the Kindle Fire some learning games. The volume was muted, but, who can be heard clear across the entire crowd? Oh yes... Daniel yelling: "Banana! Yellow! Grape! Green! Yeah that wasn't working. Then not to be outmatched, Amelia started yelling "Da-da!" and "Ahhhhhhhhhhhhh!" Of course we picked them up and removed them as not to disturb others.
Soon after Brian and I strapped those talkers (turned yellers) into their stroller and packed them up to go back to the hotel.
I stayed back by myself - I wasn't going to miss it.
But, before I sent Brian off with the kids, I had a minor break down: "What am I doing wrong? How can other kids still still and ours can't? I feel like such a bad mom, am I?
The fast answer to this is "You're doing great, he's only 2 1/2, all kids are different, and would you want to sit still if you were not even 3 years old?"
Sure sure, great advice I'd give to any mom who posed a similar question to me. Hard as a Stephen hawking thinking question to answer with any discernible clue.
Should I be more firm? yes. How do I enforce the rules? Time our doesn't seem to work, and smacking him around is not in the cards. If I close him in his room, he'll start to scream , cry and then his asthma kicks in and he throws up everywhere.
I'm at a loss.
Perhaps I don't need any advice, though knowing there are other parents out there who face similar issues.
Are we the only parents who can't go out with our children?
Behavior. Are they on their best behavior? Well, folks, sadly, there are. You should see them when they are NOT on their best behavior.
An amazing dinner would have to start around 4:30 for the ideal eating window to be encapsulated. We all sit down, Daniel gets some crayons he plays with for a little before he starts to throw and eat them. We keep a stash of books, toys and cups with us and order his meal right away so it comes out first. Then, hopefully, he is hungry enough to keep eating while Brian and I ( or whomever is brave enough to go with us or old enough to want to eat the early bird way) try to enjoy our meal without having to give in to Daniels "GET DOWN NOW!...please."
It gets better. It must. I believe it will.
But it would be nice to know we're not alone.
Today's Mess Of The Day:
Rice is akin to snow or glitter in a theater...once it gets everywhere, you're finding bits and pieces everywhere for weeks...